Pain is the darkest area here because no one would ever desire to go through the pain of losing your lover. Unworthiness scares us because the thought of no one will love you as this man does is recurrent and you can’t seem to snap out of it.
Your choices in life give you either happiness or suffering and you would not want the latter. When you think about letting go of your love the first thing that comes to your mind is your survival without him. All this time, present or not, he has been there in your life and there are millions of things that you have had done together, so why now? Because things are not the way you’ve imagined in the beginning. You put a lot of effort to make things work but still there is this unfinished feeling inside that pushes you to look out for someone who can make you complete.
Yes, you don’t feel complete and to make this peace with yourself you need to let go of the man you love and find someone you deserve and can have an emotional connection with. It might be hard, things will unravel in the worst way but you have to determine whether you need longevity of a relationship or endless suffering with this relationship.
Damn! Relationships are not easy. Efforts, commitment, unwavering love and patience, are the factors to give strength to relationships. But when you feel all of your efforts are futile and you are discouraged for what you have in a relationship then that’s the time to call things quit. Things are broken in your relationship like shattered pieces of glass, impossible to mend again, and you don’t have much strength to pick up every shard and fix it.
Love should be effortless without forcing yourself into situations that aren’t meant for you, it shouldn’t be something that you can manifest out of thin air. When it’s not meant for you then it will never work. You have put in all your efforts to keep everything together but still you feel there are many missing pieces. Those incomplete spaces will never be fulfilled if not now, it would be best for you to walk away and find a life and love who can complete you.
Think of the things that are mentioned here. Do you see them in your relationship? At the end of this article, if you would find the maximum number points in your relationship then you would do best to yourself letting go of the man you love.
1. Rehashing old argument.
If arguments and conflicts persist for long time, then that’s a sign of your sheer incompatibility. You and your partner have failed to show the emotional maturity or compatibility to engage in healthy conflict resolution. You can’t meet halfway to your partner and can’t even think about compromise, your relationship is never going to work this way.
2. Things don’t work one-way.
You can see no effort been put to your relationship from the other side and you are the only one giving every bit of yours.
3. Matters outside of your relationship are more important to him.
You have many matters outside of your relationship that are keeping you apart from each other. You two can’t keep up with your relationships status because your personal problems are overpowering your ability to balance out things.
4. Future is not together.
You two can’t seem to fit together in the future plans. As a couple, neither of you have mutual goals or you would be able to see eye to eye on where you want to go as a couple.
5. Trust issues.
Your relationship is virtually dysfunctional because you find it hard to trust each other and can’t live life together as completely transparent.
6. Relationship has become toxic for your life.
Life should be better if it wouldn’t be this relationship. It’s time to release yourself from the shackles of this relationship.
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